As Red Nose Day approaches, Comic Relief is shining a light on the extent of domestic abuse across ...

As Red Nose Day approaches, Comic Relief is shining a light on the extent of domestic abuse across the UK. 
Charities funded by Red Nose Day report overwhelming demand from those suffering every single day behind closed doors; an endemic which saw 1.2 million women experiencing domestic abuse in the last year and two women killed each week in England and Wales because of domestic violence.
Figures released by the National Domestic Violence Helpline, a vital support service launched by Comic Relief in 2003 and run in partnership by Women’s Aid and Refuge, show that demand for domestic abuse crisis assistance is at an all-time high with on average a staggering 230 calls received every  day. 
Gilly Green, Head of UK Grants for Comic Relief, says: 
“More and more women are finding the courage to come forward, which will help to tackle the stigma that continues to surround domestic abuse and ensure more people get the support they need."However, domestic abuse is still a reality for far too many people and help often comes too late. It is vital that we keep the spotlight on domestic abuse, encourage more women to seek help, and make sure that they receive the support they need as early and as easily as possible.”



With more and more people speaking out about their experiences, latest research also underlines that anyone can experience domestic abuse. 
Statistics from the Femicide Census released in December 2016 show that more than one quarter (25.7%) of victims of femicide were over the age of 56.
Gilly Green adds: 
“Little has previously been known about older victims of domestic abuse, with services currently largely geared to younger women. This abuse doesn’t just happen within couples – many women experience abuse at the hands of their children, which can be an impossible thing to talk about. Funds raised by this year’s Red Nose Day will help us to better support older victims of domestic abuse, whose specific needs have been largely misunderstood.”

As part of Comic Relief’s wider efforts to raise awareness about the issue of domestic abuse and to provide support for victims, Netmums have hosted a Facebook Live session with a spokesperson from Refuge who offered expert advice about how to get help....




To further highlight the issue, grime artist Rapman has recorded an exclusive track, ‘Promise’ for Red Nose Day 2017, telling the story of a young pregnant woman who becomes trapped in a controlling relationship.... 

*Warning* contains abusive language and violence






Comic Relief is seeking to give a voice to survivors and victims of domestic abuse, to encourage other victims to find the strength to seek help. 
One survivor received support from a Comic Relief funded project and will soon begin studying for a Masters on the issues around domestic abuse, while also providing support for other victims; another is a peer mentor for mothers after her own ordeal saw police being called to her home 11 times before she was able to seek help.
Polly Neate, CEO at Women’s Aid highlights the different forms that domestic abuse can take. “Many of us think of physical violence when we talk about domestic abuse, but it’s crucial that people understand any form of control – be it repeated comments about weight and appearance, controlling access to money, or restricting your contact with friends, family and even social media – is abusive.”
To help address the unprecedented demand for the services it funds, Comic Relief has opened a new ‘Tech vs Abuse’ programme. This initiative is currently open for applications from organisations seeking funds for innovative new solutions that use technology to support the hardest to reach victims of abuse. Some of the money raised during this year’s Red Nose Day will fund more initiatives to help provide early support victims of domestic abuse. Comic Relief is also partnering with Women’s Aid to tackle hidden domestic abuse by training community members – from hairdressers, priests and even sales reps – to spot the signs of domestic abuse. 
Money raised by Comic Relief will transform people's lives in the UK and across the world's poorest communities, including people affected by domestic abuse.

I have seen first hand just how much of a devastating effect domestic abuse can have on a person, and their family.
Together we can change things for 100's of people who are suffering from abuse, feeling isolated, and not knowing where to turn for help and support.

Together we can make a difference, and help save lives!

Missy x


For the 24-hour National Domestic Violence Helpline, call free on 0808 2000 247 or, for more information, got to www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk

We all want our children to be happy and to feel loved. So, today I am asking for your help.......

We all want our children to be happy and to feel loved.

So, today I am asking for your help....


On 6th March Boo will celebrate his 13th Birthday.

When I asked him how he would like to celebrate his special day he told me that he would love to have a party, but that there was no point because nobody would come!

He told me he doesn't have any friends, and that nobody 'gets him'.


Boo has a rare chromosome disorder and ASD, meaning he is not like his peers.

He doesn't enjoy the same things as them; he doesn't act or talk like they do.

He is unique.  

And because of that he is lonely.


He has never been invited to a birthday party, and he has no one to invite to his own!

All he has ever wanted is to be accepted for who he is.


It breaks my heart to know that he has no one to celebrate his birthday with outside of our family.

Birthday, Balloons, Celebrate,


His 13th birthday should be is a big deal, and I want him to know how much he is loved.

And that, my friends, is where you can help.....


I want Boo to be showered with love for his birthday and would love it if you could send him a birthday card.

I can just picture his face as he receives cards from all over the country... maybe even the world, realising that people do care and are thinking of him on his birthday.



If you are able to help with 'Boo's Birthday Wish' then please mail your card to;

Missy. B & Family
16 Linnet Close
Luton
Bedfordshire
LU4 0XJ
ENGLAND

You can also send virtual cards via marissa_elana@hotmail.com


Together we can show my kind, caring, gorgeous boy that he is not alone... he is loved.


Missy x



This year I am honoured to once again be taking part in the Team Honk fundraising for Comic Relief. ...

This year I am honoured to once again be taking part in the Team Honk fundraising for Comic Relief.

Over the past four years Team Honk have raised over £80,000 for Comic Relief which has been used make the lives of those living in unimaginably challenging circumstances much happier.

Team Honk have two very exciting opportunities that you can take part in, and you can find all of the information you need on the Team Honk website.


Comic Relief, Fundraising, Charity,

I am going to be taking part in both events this year so, on 11th March I will be joining lots of Team Honk members, plus their friends and family, to walk 10 miles across London.
Then on 18th March I am holding a fundraising event which my best friend is very kindly allowing me to hold at her pub, The Cornerstone, Shefford.

We have a really fun evening planned including Superhero fancy dress, cocktails, music, dancing, and lots more.

Comic Relief, Fundraising, Charity,

I am really excited about my event and am hoping to raise lots of money for the wonderful Comic Relief

If you would like to attend the event, or would like to donate a prize for our raffle, then please email me - marissa_elana@hotmail.com for more information.

Comic Relief,


You can also sponsor me via my Just Giving Page and help us change thousands of lives.

People often apologise for only being able to donate a small amount, but literally every single penny makes a difference!

Just £5 can provide a mosquito net, which could essentially save a baby's life!

And, on the other end of the scale, £150 is enough to provide a family living and working on a rubbish dump in Sierra Leone with a business start up grant and a year's accommodation to start a new life.
And these aren't just hand-outs! People are given these small grants and the tools to help them start businesses, and then they repay the loans!  
This money then goes on to help other people in need, both here in the UK and in Africa.

£1 you spent on a red nose 10 years ago could still be being used to help someone RIGHT NOW!

Pretty incredible stuff hey?!

So what are you waiting for? 
Let's make a difference!

Missy x


This is my first time joining in with the wonderful #MySudayPhoto linky, which is hosted by Darren o...

This is my first time joining in with the wonderful #MySudayPhoto linky, which is hosted by Darren over at photalife.com


My best friend lives in a beautiful village in Spain, on the outskirts of Malaga and Nerja.

My Sunday photo was taken from the Balcon de Europa in Nerja, and is definitely my idea of paradise.





It seemed appropriate to share this image as I have just arranged to go and visit my friend again at the end of March.

Excited doesn't even come close to how I am feeling about seeing my amazing best friend, and visiting this gorgeous place again!

Missy x





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Sometimes things don't work out the way you want them to, no matter how much you plan ahead. W...

Sometimes things don't work out the way you want them to, no matter how much you plan ahead.

With everything that has been happening with Boo recently I knew we needed to make some changes.

I put a plan in place to try and turn things around for him, to enable him to have an easier time.

Daddy D and I decided that school just isn't working for Boo anymore.
Although lots of SEN children do cope in a mainstream learning environment, that just isn't the case for Boo.

 After discussing it thoroughly, and doing lots of research, we decided that the best plan would be to withdraw Boo from school after the summer holidays, and to home educate him instead.

Waiting until the summer would enable me to put everything in place for his home learning, and would also mean that Bubba would be in full time school when Boo's home education was starting.

But, as I said before, sometimes things just don't work out the way you plan.


Boo's anxiety has been worsening every day; waking up with anxiety related chest pain at the very thought of going to school.

He has been frustrated, withdrawn, and aggressive.

It became abundantly clear that the changes we want to make cannot wait until summer.

Enough is enough.  We just can't watch him suffer any more.


So, on Friday I contacted his school to tell them he wouldn't be returning.

His attendance levels were already ridiculously low due to his refusal to leave the house in the mornings, and it seemed completely pointless to force him in to a situation that was seemingly doing him more harm than good.

I spoke with the school's education officer and they were extremely understanding about the whole situation.  They can fully understand why we have come to this decision, and they are even arranging for Boo to go in to school after half term so that he can say goodbye to his teachers.
Especially his class teacher who has looked after him for the last 2 years.
He has really bonded with her and will miss her more than anyone else.
I am so appreciative to her for all of the help and support she has given him during his time at high school.
If you ever see this Mrs W ..... Thank You, from the bottom of my heart.

school, desk, teacher, education,


Boo always tries incredibly hard at everything.  He will do the very best he can, but still not reach the levels that are expected of him.

This isn't his fault, or the fault of the school, it is just yet another complication of his condition.

The term after the summer holidays would have seen Boo choosing his GCSE options and starting to complete coursework in preparation for his exams.

Exams that his school reports and assessments have already shown us he is extremely unlikely to pass.

I will always encourage Boo to do his very best in life, but I also have to be realistic.

Why make him suffer the extra anxiety and frustration of studying for (and sitting) his exams when he wasn't going to be benefiting from them?

education, stationary, learning supplies,


Instead I will keep him home with me.

I will teach him the things he enjoys the most and attempt to make learning fun for him.  I will take him on educational days out, and teach him life skills that will give him the chance to become as independent as possible.

Skills he will actually make use of.

I am also looking into having a SEN tutor coming to the house to help Boo with his maths and English skills as I personally feel these are the 2 most important subjects for him to continue with, and the ones he can make use of in his life as an 'independent' adult.

I am under no illusion that it is going to be easy.

But I have to do what is best for Boo.
What is best for his future.


As well as meeting his educational needs I also want to address his social skills.

He had no friends at school, didn't take part in any social activities, and very rarely wants to leave the house.

I want to try and change this.

Already I am looking into local groups that he can join.  Groups of children he can relate to and who will accept him for who he is.

Boo is very passionate about drama and has expressed his wish to be an actor when he is older, so I am also looking in to finding a suitable drama group for him to join.

It's going to take a while to find our feet and establish a routine, but I am fully confident that this is the right thing to do for Boo, and for us as a family.

Here's hoping I see the happier and less anxious version of him again soon.

Missy x